Thrive Online

Oh shoot! It sounds like I mislead you! You thought Thrive Online was created because Adam and I have the whole relationship thing figured out?!? It actually was created because……

We got in a big fight! I think it was about not feeling heard or understood. It ultimately led me to lacing up my running shoes and I literally ran out the door. I know, all you Gottman readers are saying alert! 

My poor postpartum body wasn’t quite up for what my mind needed but on that long run, Thrive Online originated. 

Despite being triggered, hurt and gasping for breaths between tears, I drew from the work I love most, couples. I connected with the tools I believe in.

Couples wait an average of six years to get support for an ongoing problem!! That’s a lot of built up hurts and resentments. 

It got me thinking that all couples need a tool to check in with. To reestablish what their role is and what the current need is. I can’t tell you how many couples have said to me “he/she is different than when we met.” Every single time I reply with, “I hope so.”

We all need to grow and change. What we need to do a better job of, is being transparent about our change process in our relationships. I created Thrive Online as a tool to facilitate that process. 

No need to fear, Adam and I also worked through the prompted incident. Our greatest strength as a couple is our motivation to work through the hard. We fight, our feelings get hurt and we work really hard to try to repair. Sometimes that happens in seconds because one of us is in a place to crack a joke, sometimes it takes hours. I’m certain there are incidents that have even gone unrepaired. 

We need a tool to help us stay on track and hold us accountable. The idea of Thrive Online was because we need it (and my love for working with couples) but I hope you’ll benefit too!!